Feeling very lost....
I haven't posted on here in a while but I'm hoping some of the lovely people on here could offer some words of advice...
I've been feeling very lost with life lately, especially with my career. I'm at a point where I have to make some big decisions about what I want to do with my life, as I'm graduating from Uni this summer, but I'm immensely frustrated as I can't for the life of me figure out what that is! Even after doing a degree! I'm a determined and resourceful person, so I have no doubt that I could get wherever it is that I want to go, if only I knew where that was!
I realise how daft it sounds, not knowing what to do, but it's really been getting me down. I'm under a lot of pressure from my family to do something that is guaranteed to make me financially secure (i.e. working towards a management role in a large company), but all the so-called 'graduate-employment schemes' that I've been looking at are either closed, full, or require an immense amount of moving around which, although I am flexible, for personal reasons I cannot guarantee that I can relocate hundreds of miles away at short notice.
As well as all this, I just can't deal with the idea of devoting my life to a big corporate company where I'm not doing something that makes me feel alive! I'm a creative person at heart. I draw, paint, write, play instruments, love being outside, and reading alternative things like Spirit and Destiny! Although it is obviously the right path for some, I cannot see myself dealing with the corporate world.
Basically I'm feeling very unsure of myself, and I'm desperately worried about disappointing those closest to me, but I refuse to pledge my life to something that does not make me happy. If only I could see which way to go! I've been thinking about seeing a medium or someone of that description, what do you guys think?
Any words of advice would be so very much appreciated.
Love to all
Scarlet
Sorry to hear about the difficulties you are having at the mo. You have varied interests but is there one thing that you love doing the most? Would you be able to make a career out of that? My daughter is 30 and has had various jobs and that seems to be the trend these days. People take a job, learn from it and then move on.
You could also try meditating on it and see if you get an answer. I don't know what else to suggest really but good luck in whatever you do.
Love Val x
I find when things are up in the air...take some quiet time for you and take the first action that comes to you after that.... don't worry we are all in the right place for this time...
love and light xx
p.s. carry some Hemetite...helps calm the emotions down xx
Scarlet honey, first things first, this is your life, it has to be lived your way, you have had lots of support and encouragment from your family no doubt, but you have done the work, and you will hold the degree. that is all they can ask of you. From this point on the steps you take are along your path.
Next points, in no particular order. When I graduated I was a mature student with a family and a good background of work expereince, I stil had to wait over a year for that graduate placement. In the meantime I did voluntary work and temped as a doctors receptionist.
I got a place in a retail company, on their graduate fast track scheme, lots of interviews, lots of locations and a great deal of competition, but I got the job. And I hated it, so can fuly understand what you feel about corporate companies. On the other hand, the training was wonderful, intensive and in depth, covering every posible area of retail, and I don't regret that experience for one minute. I also had lots of responsibilty given to me very early on. so perhaps for that reason don't dismiss out of hand an opportunity that may come your way.
After graduating I felt lost too. I had moved away from all that I had known, the way I saw the world, didn't know how to relate to my pre uni friends, it was a huge adjustment. It isn't only the education that changes you, it is the whole university experience.
You've been to school, gone to uni, learnt to be independent, yet still haven't broken free from family support. It is a scary moment. And you may just need time out, to clear your head of years of study. You have all of your future to work on your income. Take a break. Temp, au pair, find a seasonal job abroad. We are in a recession, it will improve, it will also take time to get a career that feels right. You are unsure, so take time to learn about yoruself and what your prioritites are. Then lay the foundations for the life you want. Your way.
good luck l&l gigi
Hi Scarlett,
As dreamer was saying I think you need to relax and take some pressure off yourself.
Unless you are very rich or win the lottery you will be working for at least the next 40 years (of course I am assuming you are not a mature student) so there is plenty of time to find what you really want to do.
I know many people who spent the first 20 years of their working life in supermarkets, as retail assistants or carers and decided they wanted more. I also know people who have had careers like you are being pressured into and decided they wanted less.
What you want now may not be what you want in 5, 10 or 15 years - but what is important is what YOU want.
Regardless of your degree score getting a job based on your degree and as you finish is really difficult as there are so many graduates. Employers generally like people who have done the degree and positions not related to their subject - it gives you a broader view and brings more experience to the job.
Bloodstone is a good crystal to carry in your trouser pockets (near the base chakra) it helps with decision making, improves talents and creativity and dispels bewilderment.
Also wear a piece of green jade on a necklace (near the heart chakra) it suppossedly blesses what it touches, it is also a confidence booster and inspires ambition and releases blockages to allow you to acheive your goals and ambitions.
Good luck and remember your life is your life and you are the one who has to live it.
Light and Love
Kiz x
Hi Scarlet
Not sure if it will help but I'm 48 and still don't know what I want to do when I grow up!
This world is only happy if we are all put into boxes with a nice neat label. Whenever I meet people I'm asked what I do and then the label has to come out.
I have always followed my curiosity and, at times I've been a little envious of those people who always knew what they wanted to do and made a career out of it. I have the same reaction to religion. In a way I understand the security of following a set of instructions and dogma but my nature is that I'm a bit like a butterfly. I fly here because I like the flower and then I fly over there because that one looks nice etc.
And I wouldn't have it any other way - it's my nature and perhaps it might be yours too. The big plus is that life is always interesting and I'm brilliant at dinner parties or where conversation is needed because I can talk about all sorts of things! ;)
The downside is that many people don't get you. My family still have no idea what I really do. I gave up a corporate career and I work a few hours in the local tesco shop each week and they are really happy now because I fit into a box they can understand!
It may be that you do some of the normal stuff for now just to fund your curiosity. Many people do - the day job just pays for their non working life but, if this is really abhorrent for you then I think it's already been suggested about trying to make one or more of your interests work to bring you income. That probably won't please your parents but only you can be the judge of whether that is right for you.
I'm quite happy to look at your numerology if you like. I'll need your DOB, full birth name and name you use now (send by PM if you like or use the contact page on my website). It might give you an idea of some of the skills you've brought into this world. Also, have a look at my website (http://www.jackienotman.co.uk). I have pulled all the things I'm passionate about and linked them with a common thread so I now use all these tools to work with people and businesses on an energetic level. I'm still doing the tesco work but it's giving me great info on how retail works which I can use in my consultancy. And people are getting interested in what I'm doing so what I'm saying is not to give up your passion - just find a way for it to work in your life.
Jackie
Im sorry to hear you are feeling low and frustrated at this moment, and i wish i could give you some guidance regarding your situation. Im happy to give you a tarot reading if this would help, however i am a novice and just learning at the moment. If so feel free to PM me your full name and details and i will try and do this asap for you.
I hope this helps.
Love Gemini ;) xxx