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Moral Dilemma - honest, or just plain stupid?
Hi. I'm questioning something which happened today which left me with a moral dilemma. I (like a lot of people at the moment) have been struggling financially. It's four days to pay day and I'm skint - put my card in machine yesterday and it spat it out! My thought was not to worry as I trusted that the Universe would look after me. Anyway, I was in a shop this afternoon, waiting at the counter and glanced down at the ground and there was a folded up £10 note on the floor. My first thought was that, yes, the Universe had come through for me (have had similar luck back in my student days when I've been down to my last penny). However I stupidly said to the girl behind the counter 'oh look I've just found £10 on the floor' - don't ask me why. She said to keep it or if I wanted to hand it in she would pin it on a board and wait for it to be claimed. I had a bit of a debate over the morals of what to do and she said she was fine with me keeping it. Eventually I said, no, what if it was someones last £10 and they came back looking for it, and gave it to her to pin on the board. This has left me questionning whether I'm honest, or just plain stupid. I really needed the money and felt the Universe had delivered this to me, but my need to do the 'nice' thing by handing it in had thrown this gesture back at the Universe. Does anyone have any thoughts on this? Is there such a things as been so obsessed with being 'nice' and doing the 'right' thing that we actually do ourselves a complete diservice. Confused, Mise xx.
Hiya Mise,
I had a similar thing happen to me with a fiver a few years ago, I very stupidly asked at the bus stop if anyone had dropped the fiver and a man said yes... only later did I realise that it was the other man who had turned the corner and walked away. Any how, I survived to pay day through the generosity of a friend and now a few years later, I am very lucky to have a lot in my life to be grateful for - one of those is a huge Karmic bank account with loads of good deeds waiting for me and cover when ever I need it.
What I am trying to say is that you may feel stupid now, but the rewards of honesty are far greater and longer lasting than if you had not used your moral compass! Good on you, the universe is smiling on you (even though you may not feel it yet!)
C xxx
You did do the right thing, as said Karma will see you right.
When my daughter was 9 we were outside supermarket when she found £20 on the floor. She said she should hand it in, So we went back in shop, handed it in gave name & address and phone number and were told to go back in 6 months and if it hadn't been collected it was hers. After 6 months we went back and they told us someone had claimed it (one of the staff no doubt, or is that me being synical?) I wasn't happy they hadn't contacted us to say it had gone and was sort of lesson was that to teach a child that there was no reward for honesty? Anyway, the manager came to talk to me, yes I was Very annoyed with them! He gave my daughter a few freebies, nothing exciting but she was happy!
I'm sure you will be rewarded for your honesty to Mise.
Linda x
A few months ago i had a similar experience. My youngest and i were talking about cosmic ordering and he said he didn't believe in it. I said ok i'll order a tenner for me, a tenner for you and a fiver for luck. next day there it was 25 quid on the pavement outside the co - op. Moral dilemma time - perhaps it was a pensioners money, perhaps the birthday money of a small child - the milk money of a new borns single mum - even though i badly needed 25 quid at the time, like a good girl in i went into the co - op and left a message there.to say that i had found a certain amount and to phone my number to claim. I hadn't been back in the house 10 minutes when the phone rang. A woman told me the cash was the last of her teenage daughters wages and she'd dropped it outside the coop on her way to town with her boyfriend. Anyhow, up came the woman for the cash, I casually said somethng about her daugher being glad to have it back when she got back from town but thewoman told me that she'd come up for her daughter coz BGT was on tv and her daughter didn't want to miss Susan Boyle singing. I was gobsmacked at this, the money meant so much to the girl that she couldn't have got off her backside to come to thank me personally herself, Subo was more important to her than 25 quid. but what was more horrendous to me was the fact her mother didn't see anything the matter with this. If it were my kid i'd have made them go and get their own money and thanked whoever it was personally. I raged quietly to myself for a while for being a fool to have handed it back but then realised if I hadn't, i literaly would have been no better morally than the girl , or the mother, I was fuming about. I suppose at the end of the day, as long as you always try to do the right thing, even if everyone else seems to be doing the wrong thing and getting away with it. you will always be able to take the moral high ground even if doesn't make you any richer and you still fume at yourself occasionaly for being so stupid and have to keep reminding yourself it was the right thing to do.
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